As I was driving to McDonald’s this morning for an emergency coffee fix, I passed a strip of businesses. One in particular stood out to me: “Always Accurate Hospice.” My immediate thought (well, after thinking the name was super odd) was, “Wow, I wonder what it would be like if my everyday job were something so life changing?” And then it hit me, I already have a life changing job! I am raising two little souls that were made in the image of God. That fact alone gives them such intrinsic value! Caring for these boys, nurturing their heart, mind, and soul, is about as life changing as it gets! God specifically chose me for the task–I am their Mother and my pursuit of “training them up in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6)” has immense spiritual value.
I was a nanny/childcare worker for 8 years. During that time I had the full stamp of approval from those around me. And yet, when I had children of my own and quit the workforce to stay home, all of the sudden the works of my hands were no longer seen as a worthwhile endeavor. Do you want to know what that tells me? That it was never about what I did (investing in children) but about what I was giving back to society–specifically, what I was contributing monetarily. This anti-biblical attitude that is so rampant–even in the church–shows me that people are not valuing people but rather what they can get out of them. But guess what. My children are eternal. I am eternal. You are eternal. We have souls but our money and that car in our driveway? They do not. “For we have brought nothing into the world, so we cannot take anything out of it either. (1 Timothy 6:7)” Yes, they serve a purpose but one day they will be GONE and WILL NOT MATTER but our children? OUR CHILDREN have souls and will live for eternity!
God has called me to stay at home with my boys and while I know he does not call everyone to this, I do think he calls many. It’s important that we take a deep look at our hearts and lives and make sure that we are putting value where God puts value and then make changes where needed or where the Holy Spirit leads. Yes the world does not value my job but I will not be ashamed of my vocation. Sure I don’t get paid for my work and often times I don’t get glory for my efforts but we are supposed to do everything as unto the Lord anyways! “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. (Colossaians 3:23-24)” This world is not our home. Ultimately I am not a citizen of this world and do not owe it anything. “But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, (Philippians 3:20)” I live as unto the Lord and the Lord has called me to be homeward in my orientation and to raise my children after God’s own heart. “and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands,that the word of God may not be reviled. (Titus 2:4-5)” Sure it might not be flashy (picking boogers and changing poopie diapers isn’t exactly glamorous people!) or even what I would have chosen for myself but this is the work God has for me. If God is calling you to stay at home, know that God and his infinite wisdom can always make a way for anyone he is calling to move. We only need step out on on faith and he will provide the solid ground.
So, while our culture says my job as “mom” has little value, as believers, we should never underestimate or devalue the different roles God has designed for us to play within the family structure–even in our thinking (like I started to do earlier today). God has a specific role that he wants us to play (that he has revealed in his word) and things tend to get messed up when we want to play a different part i.e. Satan not being satisfied in being an angel or Adam and Eve thinking they knew better than God. Playing the part God created us to play has great power and can also give us great peace. I personally believe you can still play that part and work away from the home but to be brutally honest, how often do we decide to continue in the workforce because that’s what the world does and forget to examine scripture and pray about what God would have us to do? having been a part of the childcare system for 8 years, I have seen first hand the emotional and spiritual affects it can have on children when both of their parents work full time. I do not see how a 40+ hour work week fits in with so many of God’s commands in regards to raising children (i.e. how can we talk about scripture with our children all day long if we are not with them?). Raising a child takes time–lots and lots of time–and if our children are spending the majority of their time with someone else, then I cannot help but think they are also being raised by someone other than the person God handpicked for them–their mother. I pray that these words do not hurt or shame anyone!!! I know that there are often exceptions so I just want to say, whether you are working part-time, full-time, or stay at home, the job of raising children is truly a life changing work and we are blessed to have this task set before us by our Lord. If you are a mother, God has given you a life changing job!